[Menvi-discuss] Dealing with sighted bandmates

[Debra Baxley]

Good! Think about it!  She might be making fun at you because she knows that
she couldn't do the things that you are doing in rehearsal without music!

Debra 

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From: Menvi-discuss [mailto:menvi-discuss-bounces at menvi.org] On Behalf Of
Chris Smart
Sent: Thursday, January 24, 2013 8:47 PM
To: This is for discussing music and braille literacy
Subject: Re: [Menvi-discuss] Dealing with sighted bandmates

I would confront them and suggest they attend one practice session without
their sheet music. I bet they don't have the balls to even think about doing
it.




At 06:56 PM 1/24/2013, you wrote:
>One of the frustrating things I've dealt with for a while is when my 
>sighted bandmates talk behind my back or make comments about my 
>incompetent playing.  Of course, I am not an incompetent player and 
>have actually been told by directors things like I have great 
>musicality and a nice tone and such.  Right now this is happening in my 
>college's top wind ensemble in my section because I am waiting to 
>receive my music back from my transcriber.  Instead of just sitting 
>through the 2 hour rehearsals doing nothing I've decided to make the 
>effort to learn as much as I can by ear and then supplement/fix my 
>learning once I have my music.
>
>I know that the people doing it aren't the most mature people in the 
>section and that they're all not really my friends or anything, but I 
>at least thought I was on friendly terms with each of them and that 
>they'd understand that I'm a good player who just doesn't have music 
>like they do yet.  (They've all heard me play fine in other ensembles).  
>I'm past the point of high school where something like this would get 
>to my head and actually effect my playing, and it's not crushing or 
>anything emotionally since it's not like a friend saying things behind 
>my back, but it is getting old after putting up with it all through 
>high school.  I thought college musicians might have a little more 
>maturity, and most at my university seem to have it, but at the same 
>time I don't really feel like they have the right to judge since none 
>of them have probably ever tried to learn a piece completely by ear 
>without print in front of them.  I actually heard them earlier this 
>week because they were talking pretty close to my band locker, and my 
>section leader in another band reprimanded one of the girls for saying 
>the same thing when we were learning music a few weeks ago and 
>specifically mentioned that I was playing by ear, so I know this has at 
>least happened twice.  I almost confronted them when I was at my locker 
>and thought about suggesting that if they care enough to talk amongst 
>themselves about it that they should help to be a part of the solution 
>instead of perpetuating the problem, but of course they scattered once 
>I shut my locker and they saw me.
>
>I'm wondering if anyone else has had to deal with similar situations 
>and if so what did you do.  Did you ignore it and write it off as 
>people being narrow-minded and immature, or did you make more of an 
>effort to call them out on it than I did?
>
>Kaiti
>
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