[Menvi-discuss] Dealing with sighted bandmates

[Chris Smart]

I would confront them and suggest they attend one practice session 
without their sheet music. I bet they don't have the balls to even 
think about doing it.




At 06:56 PM 1/24/2013, you wrote:
>One of the frustrating things I've dealt with for a while is when my
>sighted bandmates talk behind my back or make comments about my
>incompetent playing.  Of course, I am not an incompetent player and
>have actually been told by directors things like I have great
>musicality and a nice tone and such.  Right now this is happening in
>my college's top wind ensemble in my section because I am waiting to
>receive my music back from my transcriber.  Instead of just sitting
>through the 2 hour rehearsals doing nothing I've decided to make the
>effort to learn as much as I can by ear and then supplement/fix my
>learning once I have my music.
>
>I know that the people doing it aren't the most mature people in the
>section and that they're all not really my friends or anything, but I
>at least thought I was on friendly terms with each of them and that
>they'd understand that I'm a good player who just doesn't have music
>like they do yet.  (They've all heard me play fine in other
>ensembles).  I'm past the point of high school where something like
>this would get to my head and actually effect my playing, and it's not
>crushing or anything emotionally since it's not like a friend saying
>things behind my back, but it is getting old after putting up with it
>all through high school.  I thought college musicians might have a
>little more maturity, and most at my university seem to have it, but
>at the same time I don't really feel like they have the right to judge
>since none of them have probably ever tried to learn a piece
>completely by ear without print in front of them.  I actually heard
>them earlier this week because they were talking pretty close to my
>band locker, and my section leader in another band reprimanded one of
>the girls for saying the same thing when we were learning music a few
>weeks ago and specifically mentioned that I was playing by ear, so I
>know this has at least happened twice.  I almost confronted them when
>I was at my locker and thought about suggesting that if they care
>enough to talk amongst themselves about it that they should help to be
>a part of the solution instead of perpetuating the problem, but of
>course they scattered once I shut my locker and they saw me.
>
>I'm wondering if anyone else has had to deal with similar situations
>and if so what did you do.  Did you ignore it and write it off as
>people being narrow-minded and immature, or did you make more of an
>effort to call them out on it than I did?
>
>Kaiti
>
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